Remember when you were looking for a potential partner? Chances are, you had a list of “must-haves” that you silently went through on your first date.
Perhaps you were looking for a man with a sense of humor. Maybe looks were the biggest turn-on for you. Or perhaps it was important to find a strong man who looked after his body.
In the grand scheme of things, none of these “must-haves” is really important at all.
When you’ve raised children together, through sickness and in health, experience the best days and the worst days of your lives… it soon becomes apparent what really matters.
Kari Boyer, a mom from Mifflinburg, Pennsylvania, shared her story after learning what is really important in a lifelong partner.
It all started with a single moment on the bathroom floor that all but smacked Boyer with the reality of what matters most in a life partner.
So, what makes the “perfect” husband? Is it their looks? Is it intelligence? Is it the way he makes her feel?
Boyer’s heartfelt post draws from her own experience and urges young women to patiently wait for divine timing. Only then will they know what God has prepared for them and prepared them for.
“Young ladies, when the season of life comes and you’re starting to pray for a spouse to spend your life with… pray for the kind of man that will lay next to your future 13-year-old, on the bathroom floor, praying over her because she can’t keep a drop of water down.”
“Pray for a man that will carry her down the stairs, to the car, and spend all night in the hospital by her side. Pray for a spouse that will consistently put you and your children first, above himself — but NOT above the Lord.”
“Pray for a spouse that will wake up at 6:30am on Sunday and get his family around and lead them to the House of God. Because, if he can wake up at 4:30am on Saturday to hunt… he can wake up at 6:30 on Sunday to lead his family to salvation.”
Boyer’s steadfast words paint the picture of a dutiful spouse, one that she tells women can be theirs too if they respectfully wait for the perfect time.
“Just wait. And while you wait, pray that the Lord would not only prepare your future spouse, but that He would prepare you to be the kind of wife He is leading you to be. Wait for the one God has for you. Don’t give pieces of yourself away to every man that crosses your path and shows you a little affection.”
Her confident words were accompanied by a picture Boyer shared, one she snapped in her house after coming upon a moving scene.
The picture is of her husband, laying down on the floor beside their sick 13-year-old daughter, comforting her in a time of extreme pain and need. This moment struck Boyer so hard that she was overwhelmingly compelled to offer her best advice to future young women looking to enter marriage.