Everyone seems to have an opinion about the recent surge of school shootings that have rocked our society. Everyone is looking for the secret formula to make our children’s learning environments safer, whether it is by tightening gun control laws, arming teachers, or giving parents more responsibility.
However, Amie Diprima Brown, a teacher, has unearthed a discovery in her class that might potentially hold the solution to America’s dilemma. Amie noticed something that was too alarming to keep to herself after sending the same assignment home with her students for 15 years.
In a Facebook post that has since received over 100,000 shares, Amie Brown wrote:
“With all of the talk about guns in schools, why it’s happening, and how to solve the issue let me offer a little different perspective, I’ve been teaching since 2003. This marks my 15th year in the classroom.”
“Everybody always talks about how schools have changed, and it’s true, they have. Yes, there’s the ‘crazy new math’ and ‘bring your own device’ changes. However, there are some other changes that I think the general population is not aware of.”
The Georgia teacher furthered saying:
“Every year for 15 years I have sent home the same assignment on the first day of school. I send a letter home asking parents to tell me about their child in a million words or less. I go on to explain that I want to learn the child’s hopes, dreams, fears, challenges, etc and jokingly ask parents to limit it to less than a million words since we all know we could talk forever about our children.”
“I go on to say I’m not grading these, not looking at handwriting or grammar and don’t care if they send them back with their child, email them, drop them off at the office, etc. These letters have been so beneficial to me as a teacher and getting to know my students on a personal level,” she added.
“I have learned about eating disorders, seizures, jealousy issues between twins, depression, adoption, abuse…just to name a few things. These letters give me a huge head start on getting to truly know my students. I often pull them out when a child has a sudden change in behavior or issue that comes up,” wrote Brown.
“Just this week I had 2 students lose their mother unexpectedly. Brother and sister, I taught one last year and one this year. As I have done before, I immediately went to my folders to pull the letters that mom sent for her children. It’s a beautiful gift that I feel I can give students to get a glimpse into how much a parent loved and adored them,” she explained.
“As I was putting the folders back in the file cabinet I noticed something,” she said.
A picture, as they say, is worth a thousand words, and Amie Brown is no longer receiving a thousand words from the parents of her students. The distinction is startling.
“I know that the percentage of parents that complete this assignment each year has gotten lower and lower, but looking at the size of the folders shocked me. That first year, I had 98% of the parents send back some type of letter on their child. This year… 22%,” she said.
According to Love What Matters, she continued, “That’s a lot of opportunities lost for me to get to know students.”
She added, “Sadly, more parents have access to an electronic device that makes this task even easier and less time-consuming. On another note, this year’s average for homework turned in is riding at 67%.”
“I’m talking a twice-monthly 5 sentence summary of what the student is reading in their own time. I remind students daily, I send text messages through Remind, it’s on my website. The only other thing I could do is do it for them,” wrote Brown.
“Parents continue to let their child rack up zero after zero, but then again, that average used to be around 98% as well. It was rare for more than 1-2 students to not have their homework 15 years ago. Now, it’s just frustrating,” she lamented.
The veteran teacher asked:
“With all of our other responsibilities in our profession, how are we supposed to get to know students so that we can identify the ones with the mentality and disposition to become a school shooter if parents are checking out of the academic process?”
She asked, “How are we supposed to educate children when their parents don’t require, expect and demand their child complete their homework?”
“Don’t wait until your child is the school shooter to let us know your child is struggling mentally. Don’t wait until your child is ineligible for sports or the day before report cards to check grades and question the teacher on why your child is failing,” Brown urged.
“Be a parent. Be involved in your child’s life so that you can help them through the issues with friends, the possible suicidal thoughts, and problems academically. I promise you, if parents spent more time with their children and got involved in their lives, we would see drastic improvements in our schools and our society,” she wrote.
She concluded, “As parents, our job is to grow the most amazing humans possible. It’s the most important job in the world. The education and emotional stability a parent provides is priceless.”
Teachers cannot complete this seemingly impossible task alone; change must begin at home.