He was trained by the FBI to spot a liar. Now we know his secrets…
Have you ever had that weird feeling that something was off about a person or an interaction but you just could not put your finger on what it was? If only you had a few proven techniques to analyze the situation and the individual, you might be able to back up your intuition with solid information.
Enter former FBI Agent LaRae Quy, and a team of experts. By learning to discern when things are wrong or dishonest, you can ultimately become a more trusting person. If you know what to look for, you are on your way.
10 Techniques To Spot A Liar
- Build trust in the conversation. Put the potential liar in a relaxed, unsuspecting state by being relaxed yourself. If you act suspicious or defensive, they may not reveal themselves. Chill out.
- Listen to how much they are talking and compare it to what you feel would be more normal. People often try to obscure the truth in words by talking louder and faster, as both show stress. Their voice may also crack or they may cough or clear their throat. You will see it.
- Use Control Responses. Ask questions that you know they will answer truthfully and then compare later responses for key questions. If they start out calm, for example, then become angry, you may have reason to be suspicious. Or, the opposite could be true, if they suddenly become calm to hide their true feelings.
- Catch them off guard with a totally unexpected question, out of the blue.
- Watch for insincere facial expressions. If they smile with their mouth but not their eyes, you can see it. Try to detect the real emotion.
- Look for lapses in memory and changes in language. If they have a sudden lapse in memory, or if they speak in brief statements with little detail, they may be calculating something. If they start speaking more formally, or exaggerating with words like “amazing” or “brilliant,” they may be hiding something.
- Ask to be reminded of the specific details in reverse order. If people have embellished a story with too many untrue details, they can get tripped up. Also, watch for repeat statements that can reveal them as trying not to make a mistake.
- Pay attention to micro-expressions. Your intuition can follow tiny, split-second facial expressions. If it flickers across their face, it can betray their true feelings. 99% of people are able to spot these things without training.
- Look for gestures that contradict claims. For example, when a person makes a statement like ‘x stole the money’ and it’s a lie, they often make a gesture that contradicts the statement, like a slight head shake denoting ‘no’ as they make it, as if the body itself is protesting to the lie.
- Watch the eyes closely. People tend to look away when lying. You can tell if they are just trying to remember a detail when they look away or if they are lying.
With practice, these techniques work. Give them a try!